Blog: When PP gets to your teenaged daughter

Last Sun., there was a family sitting in front of us and with them was a ticked off, p.o. d tween or teen. She did not want to hold hands during the Our Father and refused the kiss of peace from her parents. But she was too young to refuse to come along so that's why she's there. The father looked like a kindly and patient soul but he also looks helpless as this brat acts out her displeasure.


I wonder if PP started to get to her. As you can see from the video below, they have a program to seek out and befriend the young then separate them from their parents and values. It is their strategy to boost sales. They encourage these kids to be promiscuous and get pregnant in the process. And that's where they cash in as they aim to have every teenager to procure 3 abortions.

Source http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=cYaTywSDmls



I think they're really desperate because they have crossed the line into corrupting minors. Then again, with the government on their side, the risk is calculated if not mitigated. But they might not have anticipated the fathers' responses. If your daughter was deliberately and actively turned away from God and her family and then transformed into a fornicating slut who would kill her babies, what would you do?

Why is premarital sex bad? My friend just started high school, and she's trying to tell me that it's good and she's going to do it.

Source: http://www.catholic.com/chastity/Q1.asp  (H/T to Life Matters)

Why is premarital sex bad? My friend just started high school, and she's trying to tell me that it's good and she's going to do it.

It might help to know that your friend is not on a quest for sex. Perhaps your friend has some hurt or loneliness in her life, and she figures that if she has sex, this will feel like love, and security, and she'll be happy. But if you look into her heart, you'll see that she isn't longing for a series of physical relationships with random guys. She's looking for enduring love and for intimacy, to be accepted by a man and cared for by him. She deserves these things, but she needs to be careful and courageous so that she doesn't fall for a counterfeit. There are plenty of boys out there who will tell her how beautiful her eyes are and how much they love her and will "always" be there. They'll give her "love" for the sake of getting sex, and she may want to give them sex for the sake of feeling loved. Her heart is made for something better than this, and she needs to realize that she is worth the wait. She cannot find happiness otherwise. As the Bible says, "she who is self-indulgent is dead even while she lives" (1 Tim. 5:6). The following are some of the bad effects of premarital sex; don't dwell on them any longer than is necessary to give her a reality check. What she needs more than the bad news about premarital sex is the good news about what she is worth, and what plans God has in store for her. She needs to be encouraged to wait not because sex is bad, but because real love is so good. Let's look at the negative consequences of premarital sex from the relational, physical, emotional, and spiritual points of view. Consider how premarital sex can affect relationships. One study showed that the average high school relationship will last only twenty-one days once the couple has sex. Furthermore, couples who sleep together before they are married have a divorce rate three times as high as couples who saved that gift for the wedding night.i Couples who want what's best for their relationship or future marriage will wait. Beyond their own relationship, premarital sex frequently causes tension within families because of the dishonesty that usually accompanies the hidden intimacies. Relationships with friends are often strained, and when things turn sour, the gossip and social problems often become unbearable. One high school girl wrote, "I am sixteen and have already lost my virginity. I truly regret that my first time was with a guy that I didn't care that much about. Since that first night, he expects sex on every date. When I don't feel like it, we end up in an argument. I don't think this guy is in love with me, and I know deep down that I am not in love with him either. This makes me feel cheap. I realize now that this is a very big step in a girl's life. After you've done it, things are never the same. It changes everything."ii Another young person said, "I slept with many, many people trying to find love, to find self-worth. And the more people I slept with the less self-worth I had."iii Everyone talks about how hard it is to say no, but no one tells you how hard it is when you say yes. In regard to the physiological side of things, it's very dangerous for a young single woman to be sexually active. Because a teenage girl's reproductive system is still immature, she is much more susceptible to STDs. In fact, early sexual activity is the number one risk factor for cervical cancer, and the second is multiple sex partners.iv A girl's heart, like her body, is not designed to handle multiple sexual partners. Besides making herself vulnerable to STDs, your friend also needs to consider if she is ready to be a mom. Lastly, consider the fact that the rate of suicide attempts for sexually active girls aged twelve to sixteen is six times higher than the rate for virgins.v Tragically, these girls don't realize the purity and forgiveness that they can find in Christ. New scientific studies also suggest that if a woman has multiple sexual partners, this will lower her levels of oxytocin which in turn will damage her ability to bond. Oxytocin is a neuro-peptide most commonly associated with pregnancy and breast-feeding. It seems to act as a human "superglue," helping a mother bond with her infant. It is also released during sexual arousal and there, too, seems to work as a "superglue." Since estrogen enhances the oxytocin response, females are capable of more intense bonding than males, and are more susceptible to the suffering that accompanies broken bonds.vi According to an article by Drs. John Diggs and Eric Keroack, "People who have misused their sexual faculty and become bonded to multiple persons will diminish the power of oxytocin to maintain a permanent bond with an individual."vii In more basic terms, sharing the gift of sex is like putting a piece of tape on another person's arm. The first bond is strong, and it hurts to remove it. Shift the tape to another person's arm and the bond will still work, but it will be easier to remove. Each time this is done, part of each person remains with the tape. Soon it is easy to remove because the residue from the various arms interferes with the tape's ability to stick. The same is true in relationships, where previous sexual experiences interfere with the ability to bond. But a sexual relationship that is properly bonded from the start, such as that between two virgins on their wedding night, has one advantage among many: Oxytocin helps to maintain the "high" of sex in a long term relationship. This does not mean that if a person is not a virgin on the wedding night, he or she will be unable to bond with a spouse. It simply means that when we follow God's plan, we have the most abundant life possible. The emotional side effects of premarital sex are also damaging to a young woman. It's not uncommon for a girl to have sex in order to make a guy like her more, or to encourage him to stay with her. She may compromise her standards because she's afraid of never being loved. Once he leaves her, though, an emotional divorce takes place. A person's heart is not made to be that close to a person, and then separated. Since teenage sexual relationships rarely last, the girl's sense of self-worth is often damaged. Also, she sometimes concludes that if she looked better, he would have stayed longer. This mentality can lead to eating disorders such as bulimia. In her heart, a girl who has been used knows it. However, she may immediately jump into another sexual relationship to escape the hurt. If she tries to boost her self-esteem by giving guys what they want, then her self-worth often ends up depending upon those kinds of relationships. Her development as a woman is stunted, because without chastity she doesn't know how to express affection, appreciation, or attraction for a guy without implying something sexual. She may even conclude that a guy doesn't love her unless he makes sexual advances towards her. She knows that sex exists without intimacy, but she may forget that intimacy can exist without sex. A girl on this track usually feels accepted initially but that acceptance lasts only as long as the physical pleasure. Spiritually, sin cuts us off from God, and this is the most serious consequence of premarital sex. After going too far, many of us know all too well that cloud of guilt that weighs on our hearts. The solution is not to kill our conscience, but to follow it to freedom. It is calling us, not condemning us. Provided we repent, God will be there to welcome us home, and let us start over (See John 8 and Luke 15). What this all means is that our bodies, our hearts, our relationships, and our souls are not made for premarital sex. We're made for enduring love. i J.D. Teachman, J. Thomas, and K. Paasch, "Legal Status and the Stability of Coresidential Unions," Demography, November 1991, 571-83. As quoted in Good News About Sex and Marriage, p. 71. ii As quoted by Thomas Lickona, Ph.D., in his address, "Sex, Love, and Charahcter: It's Our Decision" given to Seton Catholic High School students, Binghamton, NY, January 8, 1999. iii http://members.aol.com/cohabiting/myths.htm. iv RA Hatcher et al., Contraceptive Technology, 1994, p. 515. As reported at www.w-cpc.org/sexuality/teens.html . v As reported by Orr DP, Beiter M, Ingersoll G. Premature sexual activity as an indicator of psychological risk. Pediatrics, February, 1991, 87:141-147. As quoted in the Medical Institute's special supplement, "Sexual Health Update" Building Healthy Futures. vi Neural Oxytocinergic systems as Genomic Targets for Hormones and as Modulators of Hormone-Dependant Behaviors, Rockefeller University NY, 1999. vii Eric J. Keroack, M.D., FACOG and Dr. John R. Diggs Jr., M.D., "Bonding Imperative," A Special Report from the Abstinence Medical Council. This question and answer taken from Jason Evert's book If You Really Loved Me. For more great chastity Q & As, order your copy of his book today.

Exactly how far is too far to go with a girl? Be specific.

from Life Matters

'll give some specifics, but before I do, let's lay down a foundation. If we're asking how close to sin we can get girls, we're asking the wrong question. We need a change of heart. We need to start asking, "How close to God can I get her? How far can I go to lead this girl to holiness, and guard her innocence?" Until we have this transformation of our heart and will, it'll be difficult to determine where to set the physical boundaries in a relationship. Also, whenever we operate with the "how far is too far" mentality, where do we usually end up? More often than not, we end up going right up to that boundary, and inching it forward each time we visit it.

We need to remind ourselves that purity is not simply a matter of staying on one side of a line that we've drawn. It's a battle for our hearts and minds as well as our bodies. Just because a guy hasn't crossed a line, it doesn't mean that he's pure. It may mean that the he's never had the opportunity to cross it.

Anyway, here are a few guidelines for how you can know how far is too far. Whenever you are considering doing something with a girl, ask yourself if you would do that if Jesus were in the room. In our hearts, we all know what is pleasing to God. Also, consider how you would want a guy to treat your future daughter or future bride, and treat women accordingly. Let this sink in. Often, we get so involved in intense relationships that it's hard to sit back and really look into our hearts.

Some people assume, "So long as I'm being a virgin, I'm being good." They compare themselves with others who are sleeping around on a regular basis, and as long as they see the world from that perspective, they feel like they're right on track. Meanwhile, they give away bits of themselves in passing relationships, all under the pretense that their friends are worse. 

Do yourself a favor: Don't get technical about drawing a line at virginity, and saying that all else goes. If you can't decide if a particular action is "too far," imagine what the look on your future bride or groom's face would be if you ever told her or him that you shared that act with another person. Make decisions now that would bless the heart of your future spouse, not wound it. (And do notbe quick to discuss the specifics of your prior experience with potential spouses; a lot of that information could do far more harm than good.)

So where does the line go? For starters, know that the line begins in your mind. As soon as you begin to lust after a girl, stop. In regards to physical lines, an easy guideline to remember is, "Don't touch what you don't got." Also, I'd recommend no passionate kissing, kissing below the chin, or lying down together. That may seem extreme to some, but the more you become sensual and physical in a relationship, the more the relationship begins to revolve around that.

I'll admit that it's easy to see this as a litany of "no's" but think of it like this. There's a highway in California that runs up the coast. It's a gorgeous ride that takes you along the side of a sheer cliff that drops hundreds of feet to the ocean. Imagine that you were cruising along in your priceless sports car, and the passenger with you remarked, "Man, there's another one of those stupid guardrails. And look, another sign saying there's a sharp turn ahead. I hate how the California highway system inhibits your freedom, and tells you what to do." Odds are, you wouldn't let the guy drive your car.

When we hear different moral laws about our sexuality, they are there for the same reason that guardrails and signposts mark a person's drive along the Pacific Coast Highway. If you want to express your freedom as you drive off the cliff, you're free to do so. But the purity of your soul is worth much more than a car. The Church's moral laws are there for our sake, so that we don't fall for counterfeit versions of love.

If you have tried everything else for years, try purity. You won't regret it. I've spoken to over a hundred-thousand teens about dating, sex, and relationships, and I have never met one who regretted what he or she did not do with a date. I've never had a high school girl come up to me in tears after a chastity talk because she did not sleep with her boyfriend. I've never had a guy confide in me that he was scared to death that his girlfriend was not pregnant. They regret what they've done, not what they've saved.

Imagine you were dating a beautiful young woman who you hoped to marry, and she had never kissed anyone because she wanted only her husband to know the touch of her lips. What man would not be flattered by her integrity and purity? What man would send her away to go a little further with the other guys? If we would be so honored by her, why would we not want to make a woman feel honored in the same way? 

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This question and answer taken from Jason Evert's book If You Really Loved Me.

Blog: Pro-Choice Nun Continues to Scandalize and Confuse

Donna Quinn is a professed religious with the Dominicans.  She used to escort women who are getting abortions until her order rebuked her.  But that did not change her mind and heart about abortion.  At the defeat of the amendment that will disallow the use of tax monies to pay for abortion in the health care bill, Donna stated that it was providential to happen during the feast of the Immaculate Conception.

From : http://newsblogs.chicagotribune.com/religion_theseeker/2009/12/prochoice-nun-still-fighting-for-womens-care.html
“I was reminded of being with men and women from the Unitarian faith tradition last year as they celebrated Mary who by her assent, they believed, was one of the first women in the New Testament to express Choice,” Quinn said.

She also referenced the Vatican’s crackdown on dissenting voices, citing an article in the magazine "Conscience" published by the organization Catholics for Choice.

Quoting writer Jeannine Gramick, Quinn wrote: “Faithful and respectful dissent is vital to the life of the church. It enables the church community to think, to deliberate, to debate and to grow in relationship to one another and in relationship to God. We cannot afford to let our dissenters be silenced. They are a gift to our church."

To express your outrage you can contact:

Cardinal Francis George
Office of the Archbishop
Archdiocese of Chicago
PO Box 1979
Chicago, IL. 60690-1979
Phone: 312-534-8230
E-Mail: archbishop@archchicago.org

Sr. Patricia Mulcahey, OP
Prioress - Sinsinawa Dominicans
E-mail: Spatmul@aol.com

The idea of a "faithful and respectful dissent" is how many well meaning Catholics have been duped to supporting the choice to abort one's child.  A few theologians have caused this confusion by presenting ideas  in isolation and out of context.  So certain people, specially politicians, picked and chose those ideas that served their cause whether those principles applied or not.

Faithful "dissent" applies to proposed teachings that are not yet officially defined e.g. limbo or ensoulment.  But the morality of abortion does not fall in this category because there has been a teaching on its immorality back in the first century as documented in the Didache "You shall not kill the embryo by abortion and shall not cause the newborn to perish [ie, murder]."  

(H/T to Creative Minority Report http://www.creativeminorityreport.com/

Video: US Education Czar's organization promoted child porn & sexual practices in the classroom

In contrast to the purity and holiness that St. John Bosco promoted, watch how the US Education Czar's and his organization promoted child porn and deviant sexual practices to children in the classrooms.  I originally planned to transfer my kids to  Catholic schools when they start high school;  I may need to do it sooner.  It's going to be an added expense but the spiritual life of my kids are worth it.  

Source:  http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=o0NRI-Dla88
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Video: St. Dominic Savio

Direct link at http://divine-ripples.blogspot.com/2009/12/video-st-dominic-savio.html

 I went to church yesterday and as I received Communion, a boy in front of me knelt down.  He must have been 7 or 8 because he was tiny.  But he knelt when his turn came.  I was touched by his devotion and my thoughts went to another boy who became a saint at 15, St. Dominic Savio.  He told St. John Bosco to turn him into a garment for the Lord, to help him become a saint.  He was God's seal of approval to St. John Bosco's preventive system - a method of education and formation that uses kindness, reason and religion.  It does away with punishments if possible.  But it wasn't lowering the bar.  When St. Dominic made his first communion, he resolved that Jesus and Mary would be his friends and that he would chose death rather than sin.  Death rather than sin.  If only our Catholic representatives, senators and judges would care about holiness and sanctity, then America would become a more civilized, moral and decent nation.

Blog: Feastdays - a celebration of the spirit & the body

In St. John Bosco's schools and youth centers, feast days are celebrated with fanfare.  There were stage presentations - operettas back in his day, sports competitions and something special at the table.  It is a time of  merriment.  Since yesterday was the solemnity of the Immaculate Conception, I started a tradition at home.  It was nothing big - just having soft-batched cookies and chocolate milk for dessert.  This is special because my wife does not let the kids have chocolate milk.  I explained why we're having something special and told my son to remind me next year, so I can get the treats.  My eldest asked for the date and I bet you, he'll remember.  He tells me of events that happened when he was 4 or 5